They
also have a healing effect on the nervous system and improve the functioning of
your brain. Avoidant Attachment Style Avoidant attachment style is an
attachment pattern recognized by experts in the field of psychology. This style
along with others was found out after an intensive research. TAGGED UNDER:
Attachment Disorder Advertisement There are patterns of how we get attached to
people. Due to the remarkable efforts of two psychiatrists, John Bowlby - the
pioneer of attachment theory and Sigmund Freud, we can get extremely
interesting insights on how adults and children develop bonds with others. Most
of these are based on parental relationships. Now, this theory has to be
understood first, and only then we can understand the ways in which people
attach themselves to others. Explanation According to Bowlby, attachment is a
lasting connectedness between human beings. The theory is based on the same. It
is a theory having a combination of psychological, ethological, and
evolutionary theories related to relationships between people. The cardinal
tenet of this theory is that a child in his or her early age requires to
develop a relationship with at least one primary caregiver.
That is necessary
for natural emotional and Black Diamond Force social development. Infant behavior basically looks
out for closeness with a loving figure. They get attached to those, who are
sensitive and responsive towards them. A concept of secure base was put forth
by Mary Ainsworth, and on the basis of that, she developed certain patterns in
infants, which can be listed as secure, avoidant, and anxious attachment. The
disorganized pattern came later in the picture. From that developed two major
divisions - secure and insecure. The avoidant one is an insecure style.
Patterns There are two main traits observed here mainly in adults. These
patterns mostly do not correspond to their styles as kids. Dismissive Style
People, who have this kind of style strive for a high level of independence.
That overwhelming desire to be independent manifests as avoiding attachment
totally. It is no wonder that such individuals do not look out for a lot of
intimacy with their partners. The reason is that they view themselves less
positively than others. These individuals perceive themselves as
self-sufficient and unfettered with feelings connected to being attached with
someone. A typical trait is that they have a tendency to hide and suppress
their emotions and feelings. Fearful Style If you ask a person whether he is
uncomfortable with getting close to others, and if he agrees, then he has this
particular trait. These individuals tend to be confused or have a mixed feeling
about developing close relationships. They worry about getting hurt after
getting close to others.
The dilemma pops up, when the person has the desire to
have an emotionally-close relationship, but he feels uncomfortable with the
emotional closeness. Such people find it hard to trust the intentions of their
partners. They suppress and hide their feelings as well. The crux is that a
relational scheme is formed regarding each pattern of interaction occurring
regularly between partners. That scheme includes information about yourself,
information about the partner, and information about the way the interaction
usually unfolds. According to research and studies on this by behavioral
psychologists, the anxious, preoccupied style in adults tallies with the
anxious or ambivalent style in children. On the other hand, the dismissive and
fearful avoidant attachment styles distinctly observed in adults equate with a
single style in children. After reading this, you would know what drives the
way we manage the proximity in different relationships. Can Selfie Addiction be
Considered as a Mental Illness? This is a selfie generation! Everyone is fond
of taking selfies, and posting them on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Is
there a need to worry about this booming trend? 'Cause psychiatrists have
linked selfies to narcissism and mental illness. Buzzle finds out all about the
selfie addiction. TAGGED UNDER: Internet Addiction Advertisement 'Selfie' .
A picture taken of oneself by oneself, with a smartphone or webcam and
shared via social media] was declared as '2013 word of the year' by Oxford
Dictionaries. The year 2014 was named as the 'Year of the Selfie' on Twitter.
Selfies have become a cultural trend. Right from celebrities and presidents, to
common people, everyone has this craze. Selfie's furor has gushed even in the
entertainment world and there is an American series named 'Selfie', and an
album of the same name. So much so, there are institutes that have started
offering the selfie course, in which they teach the art of perfecting self
portraiture. Is it just a fad, or does this have dangers involved? Let me take
a Selfie!!! Be it celebrities flaunting their grand lifestyles, or normal
people capturing moments and sharing on social networking sites, selfies are
more than a trend! Visited a new place, take a selfie. Mesmerized with a five
star loo? Grab a selfie! Getting bugged? Needless to say, selfie is on its way.
In fact, did you just take a shower? Perfect time to click a selfie and post it
on your bookmarked site! We may laugh at our friends posting their pictures
with pouts every hour, changing their DPs abruptly, or glower over our favorite
celebrities being obsessed with clicking selfies, but the recent research
linking selfies to mental disorder can't be neglected. On a serious note,
something that started with just a click has deeper, severe problems if
ascertained. How does my Selfie look? Psychologists are of the opinion that a
mere habit of taking pictures of self till the 'picture perfect' moment may be
a sign of narcissism.
These overly self-obsessed social media addicts are in a
perpetual need of appreciation. They may be depressed, anxious, suffering from
loneliness, or self-loving individuals who quest for attention to fill in the
emotional void in their lives created by the prolonged exposure to social
media. Feeling the need to get noticed and appreciated is human tendency.
Capturing a selfie in a certain pose, at a certain place, is one of the easiest
ways to gain attention. The hidden caption behind such selfies is, "Please
recognize me, my looks, my talent, admire the way I spend my life. And, if you
won't, I would find a better place to share them." Studies have also
linked selfie addiction to low esteem. A Boston-based psychologist opined that
taking a lot of selfies gives an indication of low confidence in that person.
Another psychologist from London said that this is not just an addiction, but a
symptom of body dysmorphic disorder (BDD). Research done by VoucherCloud app
revealed that around 60% of youngsters (regular selfie-takers) have a feeling
of low esteem behind their smile. Selfie Addiction in News Danny Bowman, a
19-year-old teen, supposing-ly Britain's first selfie addict, has been in the
news for a while. His selfie addiction made him spend 10 hours a day, clicking
up to 200 pictures on his smartphone. Danny said his urge to get a perfect
selfie made him suicidal. He lost his friends; he was thrown off his school; he
lost his health, all 'cause of this addiction. The only thing he cared about
was looking perfect, which made him lose 2 stones, eventually to get a perfect
snap. He was sensitive to criticism, and felt miserable if he'd get negative
comments about his body or picture, making him take more number of selfies.
Doctors opined that this is a severe case of OCD and body dysmorphic disorder, in
which the patient feels a lot of anxiety regarding his appearance. Danny's been
treated, and is there to help people suffering from the same trauma. But this
was an extremely difficult phase of his life. Danny's father said, "There
is a huge lack of understanding about the dangers social networking and mobile
technology can pose if a young person already has any insecurities - which most
do." David Veal (a consultant psychiatrist who was dealing with Danny's
case) told The Sunday Mirror, "Two out of three of all the patients who
come to see me with body dysmorphic disorder since the rise of camera phones
have a compulsion to repeatedly take selfies." Another research by the
Ohio State University says, men who take and share a lot of selfies on sites like
Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, possess psychopathic traits like lack of
empathy. There was also a buzz that the APA (American Psychiatric Association)
has waved a confirming flag to selfies causing mental illness. And that they
have named this disorder as selfitis, which has three stages: borderline
selfitis (clicking pictures of oneself at least thrice, but not posting on
social media), acute selfitis (taking selfies at least thrice a day and posting
all on networking sites), and chronic selfitis (an uncontrollable urge to click
selfies and post them). However, this was found to be a hoax, but it definitely
has its set of after-effects. Selfie Addiction Help People habitual to clicking
selfies is actually a cry for help. Psychologists have suggested a way: to
maintain a selfie journal. All you have to do is note down everything that's on
your mind when you're about to take a selfie.
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